Woe #48: There will be no friends at the ceremony, and no one seems to understand that.

Again blog readers, just to remind you all:
We are NOT getting married in the temple.
I can't tell you how many times I've been asked that lately,
especially by complete strangers who notice my ring and Mormonisms.
We are having our ceremony at Highland Gardens.
We are having our reception at Highland Gardens.
It's going to be beautiful.
And y'all can see how beautiful it is at the reception.

Yes.
The reception.
Unless you are family, you are not invited to the ceremony.
Here are some response I've gotten from this:

• "But Natasha, I was your first boyfriend. Your first gay boyfriend. I have to be invited."
• "Well, why are Hailey and Brandon invited, but not us?"
• "I just... I just thought we were better friends than that."
• "Oh. Uhm, ok. No big deal, I understand!" (walks away sulking)

Trev has also received similar sentiments from individuals, too.
Woe #48: There will be no friends at the ceremony, and no one seems to understand that.

Is it truly that hard to understand?
I don't really care how close of friends you think we are.
You are NOT invited to the ceremony.
We don't have room.
Trevor has 54 family members invited to the ceremony.
I have 45 family members invited to the ceremony.
{And yes, I deem Hailey and Brandon family.}
The maximum room capacity of the ceremony room at Highland Gardens is 100.
We are pushing 99 people.
Granted, everyone might not show up, but I'm still not inviting friends.
If I choose some friends to come, the other friends not invited would bitch about it.
And vice versa.
I'm sorry friends, I really wish some of you could be there.
Trev also wishes that some of his friends could be there, too.
But it's just not going to happen.

So, when we tell you you're not invited to the ceremony but more than welcome to come and party with us at the reception, please take it like an adult and don't bitch about it.
Please and thank you.
Trust me, the reception is going to be a lot cooler than the ceremony.
Ice cream, dancing, music, garter toss, bouquet toss, sparkler send off...
I'd rather have you all there at that, anyway.
Makes the reception seem more like a celebration of our marriage, not so formal and stiff like the ceremony.